Them

Honestly, my sisters treat me like crap… I don’t really know why I even bother.

I offered her my box of nicest pineapple tarts I made yesterday when I should have given to people who appreciate me much more, such as my grandmother. My sis didn’t offer me any of the pineapple tarts she made- I didn’t even know she made them until my mum told me a week later. Hmm.

For those out there who are close to your family, remember to treasure them. For people like me whose family have issues, we’ll seek comfort in love and friendship.

Here’s to love and friendship. (yes you yy…)

You Complete Me

“The most wonderful of all things in life is the discovery of another human being with whom one’s relationship has a growing depth, beauty and joy as the years increase. This inner progressiveness of love between two human beings is a most marvelous thing; it cannot be found by looking for it or by passionately wishing for it. It is a sort of divine accident, and the most wonderful of all things in life.”

– Sir Hugh Walpole

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Boo,

The thought of you makes my most horrible day, bearable. Working here takes a toll on my mood… so a big Thank You for staying by my tantrums.

With love,

Q

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For those of you who have yet to find the special one, here’s a quote for you:

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’ re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU… The one who turns to his friends and says, thats her…  ”

– Author Unknown

Belief is Part of the Problem

When you have decided there is a reason for something not working for you, you have formed a belief.

This belief is now part of the problem.. it is of your own making.

A problem can only exist in your mind. Outside your mind there are only circumstances.

When you apply yourself to circumstances and believe that you can succeed, you are giving yourself the foundations to succeed at anything.

– How to be Confident using the Power of NLP by David Molden and Pat Hutchinson

Body Language

I’ve recently taken an interest in body language. It’s a very interesting topic as most of the conversation is done non-verbally.

Here are some key takeaways:

1. “When the mind closes, the body follows.”; “When you can see a ‘no’ before it’s said, you can try a different approach

In essence, when a person crosses their hands or legs, it shows that they are not open to your opinion at that point in time. It will be futile to keep pushing your point across at that moment. Hand them a brochure, a pen, a paper, or a drink so that they will “open” up and start listening.

2. In “The Secret Language of Influence in Business” by Kevin Hogan, the found that “if your counterpart is right-handed, you will be received better and have a far greater likelihood of making the sale if you are seated off to that person’s right”

3. “Fake it until you make it”

One should deliberately choose the necessary behaviors to show confidence in yourself and if you do that often enough and long enough, that confidence will eventually develop for real.

“Remember that confidence is an illusion, a bit like pulling a rabbit out of a hat: the rabbit does come out of the hat, but there is a magic trick that you did not see that put it in there. By matching someone else’s confidence, you can appear confident, but no one will notice the techniques you are using to create the perception.”

4. To build rapport, there are 3 key points to remember:

4.1 Mirroring– your body language, your movements, your posture, your tone of voice, your style of dress

4.2 Listening– ask open-ended questions and listen for key wants and needs, check for understanding, find areas of common ground, hear what is really being said

4.3 Reciprocating– similiar pressure when shaking hands, sharing similar levels of information, responding to a gesture of trust with another gesture of trust, anticipating needs and offering support.

5. Skilful elbow-touching can give you up to 3 times the chance of getting what you want.

When you next meet someone new and you shake hands, extend your left arm, give a light touch on their elbow or hand as you shake, rpeat their name to confirm you heard it correctly and watch their reaction. Not only does it make that person feel important, it lets you remember their name through repetition.

6. Use the “Steeple” action to protray confidence.

7.  The power of “Eyebrow Flash“. The golden rule is always Eyebrow Flash people you like or those who you want to like you.

8. The “Power Lift”

To keep control of where a person is looking, use a pen to point to the presentation and, at the same time, verbalise what he sees. Next, lift the pen from the presentaton and hold it between his eyes and your eyes. This has the magnetic effect of lifting his head so that now he is looking at you and he sees and hears what you are saying, achieving maximum absorption of your message. Keep the palm ofyour other hand open when you are speaking.

9. Remember to take note of seating arrangements for the best outcome.

Feedback

When someone asks for your comments on a work that’s been published, they really only want to hear the praises. So, just say it’s good and keep the rest to yourself.

– Qing

Incident: Someone asked earnestly for my comments on an article that he published. I took a great deal of effort to try to understand so that I can dish out some constructive feedback. When I did, the person was very defensive and countered every suggestion I proposed. Bottom line, unless it is someone you know very well or your loved ones, just say “hell yea, it’s freaking good!” =D hurhur.

From this, we should also learn to be open to suggestions if we ask for them.

Her Life Lessons

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.

It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolls over to 50 this week, so here’s an update:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over-prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time some time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Letting Go 2

“The Tao Te Ching says, When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need. Have you ever struggled to find work or love, only to find them after you have given up? This is the paradox of letting go. Let go, in order to achieve. Letting go is God’s law.” – Mary Manin Morrissey

I’ll be happier if I knew how to let go..

Happy New Year

Happy 2012 people!

Any new year resolutions?

I never stick to my resolutions ever hence never saw the need to set any. However, i’ll attempt to do it here and now since I have a blog to record my thoughts.

1. Continue questioning, reading and learning.

Recently reignited my love for reading and started questioning the things happening around me. For eg. how does wifi work, which is the sport that burns the most calories.. etc. You remember a lot better when you are interested to know the answer. Find your interest and you will remember the answers.

2. Exercise- swim more

Love swimming like a fish.. makes me feel refreshed.

3. Still deciding……