Friends over partner. That’s what I have taken away. They have always been there for you so just because you have someone in your life, it doesn’t mean you can push them aside for someone else. That’s what I have been doing but it stops now.
Of course, you can integrate your partner in the meetings but there are times when you should just dedicate your time to meeting up with them alone. If you are with your friends, your partner should respect that and allow you to hang out with them without the constant messaging.
I have to qualify though that of course your partner is very high up in the priority list. It’s just that when it’s time for friends, it’ll be good if he can understand the space that you need for that few hours.